So many people are searching for happiness. But, what is it? No, really, what is it? Is it meaning? Equality? Love?
The Huffington Post published an article on Valentine’s Day about this very topic. How perfect! The article does a great job illustrating the common difficulties and misunderstandings that our culture struggles with regarding how we can be happy. It’s easy to get caught up in the facade that wealth creates happiness, or that poverty creates the lack of happiness. There are too many examples that thwart this idea. Nor does freedom from challenges create happiness, as it cannot come simply from the lack of problems. Rather, it is something else entirely.
I agree wholeheartedly with the article’s conclusions that happiness is dependent upon three significant factors: Gratitude, Service to Others, and Focus. Science is even validating these truths.
Happiness is about how we connect with our lives and those we care about. It is the good we create in and around ourselves that has the greatest impact on how we feel. So, how grateful are we for what we DO have? How often do we think of others and what we can do for them? Are we engaged in our lives instead of living on autopilot? These are valuable qualities to consciously choose to have in our lives. And that’s the kicker. We need to choose to be happy.
Sometimes, however, the choice to be happy is more difficult than it seems it ought to be. There are times that happiness seems impossible. Why is that? Why does it feel like happiness is out of reach?
Another level of happiness needs to be considered. There are things at our core – beliefs and programming – that either allow or fight against us feeling happy. We recognize them in thoughts and emotions that bring us down. We feel the resistance as we attempt to move toward happiness and other goals.
Core beliefs are the inner programming that help determine the levels of happiness, success, health, and more that we experience in our lives. Did you know that you have a thermostat inside of you regulating your life? It’s true! You’ve inherited limiting patterns from your ancestors as well as adopted patterns throughout your life. The former, you weren’t around consciously to choose or not choose. The latter, you were likely subject to without sufficient tools to protect yourself. Either way, they exist and they contribute to or limit your joy.
The good news is that all is not lost. You don’t have to be a slave to these patterns for the rest of your life. You can change them! Science validates these truths, too. You can actually reprogram the negative core beliefs to work for you instead of working against you. You have the power. And just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, you’ve had it all along. You can heal those patterns and move forward toward your goals without all that resistance. Check out this short video on my Vibrational Release Technique to start removing those obstacles to your happiness, health, and success. I believe in you!
To read the full article from the Huffington Post, CLICK HERE.
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Muscle testing, otherwise know as Muscle Response Testing or Applied Kinesiology, is a scientific technique used to gain information regarding truths about a person’s health, emotions and beliefs. It goes to the source and gives us information that is valuable for us to know about ourselves. As a Holistic Health & Energy Coach, I use this to understand aspects of a client’s mental, emotional and physical health.
I could go into a lot of detail here. But briefly, muscle testing is a process where someone is asked a question or given an item (such as an apple) and the body responds either with a strong test or a weak test. A strong test means that the statement, question or item is good or truthful. A weak test, on the other hand, shows that the thing in question is false or simply not good for the individual. There are a number of explanations for this phenomenon. What we know for sure, is that it is real and effective for determining myriad pieces of valuable information to help someone in their journey of healing and growth.
P.E.R.F.E.C.T. is an acronym. It stands for PURE, ENERGETIC, RESTORING, FOCUSED, ELEMENTAL, CURING, TECHNIQUES. In essence, this personal development and healing system works on every level of our beings to effectively and comprehensively facilitate healing throughout our bodies. The name PERFECT also refers to how each of our journeys to health, success and happiness is perfect. The experiences we have and lessons we learn are tailored to our perfect growth.
With this system, I help people see the obstacles and limitations in their lives that prevent them from living up to their full potential. Physical, mental and emotional health affects every part of our lives. Stress at work can make us tired and grumpy. Our burdens can contribute to weight gain, and so on. Even if we eat perfectly, exercise 30 minutes every day and sleep the recommended 8 hours every night, we can still be significantly unhealthy if our job is miserable. What we see in life is a reflection of what’s going on inside our hearts, minds and bodies. Life is our mirror, and I help people see it clearly.
When we understand what’s holding us back from joy, health and success, my simple techniques can help remove these obstacles to our mental, physical and emotional well being. As we identify these issues through muscle response testing (applied kinesiology), we can then clear them so that the body can begin healing itself, our positive beliefs and internal dialogue are working for us, and our lives can mirror what we’ve been wishing they would.
How can you know if this is right for you? Ask yourself honestly: “Am I living up to my full potential? Am I as happy and healthy as I’d like to be?” If not, I may have the answers. ???? If you are experiencing any of these struggles, I can help:
- Physical health issues, such as pain, fatigue or illness
- Limiting beliefs and negative thoughts that haunt you or sabotage your relationships, business success and more
- Depression, anxiety or any other debilitating emotions that seem to prevent peace and joy
- Constantly falling short of achieving personal or business goals and dreams
- If you are a coach, I can help you with your own potential and desire to hone your own skills, as well as provide tools you can use to help your own clients.
Whether you want personal or group coaching, let’s connect! I look forward to helping you achieve your health, business and life goals!
Life Above the Line: Living the Life You’re Meant to Live
The Worst Pain Of My Life
“Make no small plans, they have no magic to stir men’s souls.” ~Unknown
At only 22 years old, I should have had an amazing life ahead of me. Right? But what was happening to me? The doctor just said that I would likely be dealing with intense pain and debilitating fatigue for the rest of my life. I felt lost, confused. Worse than that, most of the people around me thought I was faking it. Are you kidding me?! All I wanted was to do what I had been sent there to do. But there I was, thousands of miles from home, living with a stranger of a roommate, and in the worst pain of my life.
I was a missionary for my church, a great 18-month adventure far from home, and I knew the Lord wanted me there. It comes with lots of blessings and lots of trials. My first weekend at the training facilities, I got the flu. No big deal, I thought, just part of the experience. Within a day or so I felt better, but soon after I suddenly lost my voice. Getting sick the first time had me already feeling a little awkward around my assigned training group, and there I was, sick again. Then the lost voice turned into back pain – totally not normal. My trainer helped me coordinate some visits to a local chiropractor hoping to help me get some relief. The adjustments seemed to help, so a few weeks later I was sent out to my first area to start working. This time even farther away from home.
During the first few days, my back felt weak and only mildly achy, so I didn’t think much about it. But the life of a missionary includes walking and teaching and serving for many hours each day, and the pain was increasing. You need to understand that there is a culture among missionaries of giving your all, holding nothing back in the service of the Lord and others. And if someone is struggling to live up to that standard – especially without visible cause – it can be confusing and frustrating. So I guess it’s not surprising that my new companion/teaching partner seemed a little impatient with my struggles, and even a bit argumentative about us keeping up the pace. I tried to explain that I was doing my best, but that something was wrong and I didn’t know what it was. There may be some who just can’t handle the workload, but that wasn’t me.
The days wore on and the pain increased. I felt my energy diminishing until, one morning, I was completely exhausted and I could hardly get out of bed. At this point I really started to worry. Here I was, thousands of miles from home, deteriorating for no apparent reason, and scared. I received permission from our mission leader to go to a doctor. One medical appointment turned into several as no one could figure out what was going on. They poked and prodded and tested, but the doctors didn’t know what to do with me. They made their guesses, but the numerous tests they ran amounted to no more than circumstantial evidence that it was probably all in my head. That’s what they told my leaders, and that’s when is when it got ugly.
My mission leader was now convinced that I was just a problematic youth trying to get out of something. He lectured me sternly and told me to get back to work. He also informed me that my companion had told him I was trouble. This stunned me. I was dealing with massive pain, intense fatigue and now betrayal. I was terrified and, for the first time in my life, truly angry. When I saw my companion next, she received the best ‘go to heck’ look I could give. It must have been good, because she stepped back. I think she realized she had messed up.
With new disdain and renewed determination, I said I would do whatever we needed to do. This meant a lot of walking in whatever weather was to be had – rain, cold, etc. So out we went. By the time we were done with that day of work, pushing as hard as I could, I collapsed. My companion had to carry me to the car to head home and then practically carry me into the apartment. I was shattered. Suddenly, she could see the truth: I was really sick.
My companion helped me get to another doctor, a kindhearted Internist. She said she had an idea of what was going on (finally!), but that it was bad news. She stopped short of giving a diagnosis, but if it was what she suspected, it would be a life sentence of misery. Well, the good news was that my companion and one of the other missionaries in our group finally believed me. Everyone else that mattered, however, was convinced of my tenacious deception and made my life incredibly difficult.
Soon after, bad went to worse. In our weekly missionary training meetings, I had easily memorized and retained numerous scriptures and teaching materials. I was very good at it. Then, one day, it just stopped. It was bizarre and disturbing. I couldn’t retain more than a sentence. My short-term memory had suddenly turned off, and I was almost paralyzed with fear. All of the pressure, mocking, threats to get back to work, and now this made me think I was losing my mind. I just wanted to find out what was wrong, take care of it and finish what I was there to do. But, it was hopeless. Impatience surrounded me and the doubts in my mind were leading me toward the loony bin.
Like a ray of light shining through the dark clouds, my mom swung in and pulled me out of the pit. She called me unexpectedly one day after speaking with the mission leader. Something I had said a few days earlier had her worried, so she was just checking back in, and the person he described didn’t sound like the daughter she knew at all. So at just the right time, she called my apartment and pulled me out of the terrified stupor I was in, helping me muster up the strength to face my situation. I met with the mission leader, where he gave me the option to stay or to go home. I had given everything to make it work, and I could see that it was just not going to work after all. Only a few weeks into my 18-month assignment, I told him I was ready to go home.
Within a few days I was on a plane and headed back home to a safe, nurturing, albeit confused family. After picking me up and seeing a withered, pale, sickly version of the daughter my parents had sent out to serve a mission, they were stunned and quickly shifted gears. While they strategized how to unravel the mystery of my sudden decline in health, I wondered what would come of me. Would I ever feel good again? I love to learn, but would I get to return to college to finish my degree? Would anyone want to marry this invalid I had turned into? These questions haunted me as I struggled beneath the weight of constant, mind-numbing pain in my back, a non-existent short-term memory, paralyzing fatigue and a host of other random symptoms.
As if the new illness were not enough, I now felt like a failure. We had spent hundreds of dollars, massive faith and months preparing for my mission, and I had wasted it all. I was so sure that it was right – I knew it was – then somehow it wasn’t. I had to face my failure as well as my family and neighbors who had been so excited for me. Even some of them questioned if I was really sick, and it really hurt. I couldn’t bear the judgment and questions. I was devastated.
The days and nights dragged on as I attempted to deal with the pain and rest as well as I could. Being born into a strong, faith-filled family, we sought guidance through prayer. One day after a prayer my father offered on my behalf, he told me he felt strongly that I would eventually get well. When I heard those words, I felt something, too. It was almost as if the pain in my body recognized this was a temporary stop. I took the words as a literal message from heaven. That day began the greatest treasure hunt of my life, and I knew that I would eventually be healthy again. It was just a matter of faith and time.
I want you to experience this shift in your own life. The power is inside of you. The techniques you will learn in this book will facilitate a powerful change within you and around you. You will be able to benefit from this beautiful treasure that I discovered through my life and body-healing journey. After 18 years, my healing quest was finally complete. The constant pain is gone. My energy is restored. I feel capable once again to live a life of my choosing. That’s what this book is about – how my life changed, and how yours can too.
The world would like us to believe that the alternative healing modality of energy healing, aka energy medicine or energy work, is mysterious, dark and even bad. There are those who believe that it’s relegated to voodoo and witchcraft. The truth of the matter is, it’s simply science.
Just like energy in the form of electricity, it’s a neutral tool. It can be used for good or bad. Electricity can fuel a light bulb in a family’s dining room, the radio in a car or Darth Vader’s light saber. Depending upon the individual and their intention with the tool of energy, the outcome can be positive or negative.
Generally in the healing realm energy work is positive. It can facilitate the body’s natural healing mechanisms and help someone regain their health. It can remove root causes and obstacles to the body healing itself physically, mentally, and emotionally, soothe the symptoms and strengthen the body.
The sciences of epigenetics, quantum mechanics and psychoneuroimmunology are starting to explain how the wonderful world of energy healing works. They all show how our minds have great influence over our health. Whether the mind’s influence translates through vibrations, electrical impulses or chemical messages, they all produce the same result. Our physiology is changed.
Most of us have experienced these simple truths. We’ve seen first hand how our thoughts and feelings have had a physiological effect on our bodies. When we feel burdened, we may have stood hunched over. When we worried, our stomach may have become upset – you know, like having ‘butterflies.’ We can even make ourselves ‘sick.’
On the other hand, we may have also experienced the positive side of this. When we were excited about a project or opportunity, it didn’t matter that we were feeling lousy a few moments earlier. We suddenly have a bit more energy and feel better. Another beautiful example is when a mother uses all her mental energy, feelings and even physical energy to calm a fussy baby. This, my friend, is energy work at its purest.
It doesn’t matter what the problem is – illness, physical pain, allergies, emotional burdens or traumatic memories, etc. – energy healing appears to be able to improve it all. And it doesn’t even take a seemingly magical practitioner. It only takes a little belief, a little know-how, and viola! Anyone can learn how to positively impact his or her health, mood and even life circumstances.
It really is very simple. I recently did a radio interview sharing how to use one of my techniques. Here’s a link to the page where the recording is – http://www.tiffanygarvin.co/speaking/
Take a few minutes to listen and judge for yourself! 🙂
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